Tuesday, 3 September 2013

POLLYANNA PRINCIPLE AND A MEMORY TEST

You will recall pleasant information more accurately and more quickly, which is sometimes called the ‘Pollyanna Principle.’’ Whether you are trying to remember what you have perceived, what someone has said, a decision you have made, or other types of information, if it is more pleasant to remember, you will remember better.
While psychologists have tested this principle in the laboratory, such as by asking subjects to remember words that are pleasant, neutral, or unpleasant, or asking them to remember colors, fruits, vegetables, or other items that are more or less pleasant, the principle makes sense in everyday life. For example, would you not rather recall something you enjoy that gives you good feelings than something you do not like and makes you feel bad? In fact, there is a whole body of research that indicates that people will repress or suppress memories of experiences that are unpleasant, such as memories of early childhood abuse.
 You will more accurately recall neutral information associated with pleasant information or a pleasant context, or as psychologists have come to this conclusion by making comparisons in the lab, such as whether subjects better remember commercials or the brands featured in them when they see them before or after violent and nonviolent films. Repeatedly, psychologists have found significantly better recall when nonviolent, and presumably more pleasant, films are shown.
The finding makes perfect sense and you can see examples of how this works in everyday life. For example, when you are experiencing or seeing something pleasant, you will feel more comfortable and relaxed, which will contribute to your remembering something you read, hear, or perceive in this relaxed state. By contrast, if you are experiencing something unpleasant, you will feel more stress and tension; the experience may even interfere with your ability to concentrate, such as by distracting your attention, so you encode and remember less.

Assessing Your Memory Skills
Test #1: The following test is designed for you to subjectively reflect on your memory abilities now. Make an extra copy of this test, so you can answer it again after you have spent a month working on improving your memory. That way, you can monitor any improvement. The first time you take the test, answer each question as honestly as you can and total up your score. This will help you notice the areas where you especially need to work on memory improvement, such as learning to pay better attention, increasing your ability to encode information, and improving your ability to retrieve names, faces, places, and dates. Rate your memory on a scale of 1 (you forget most or all of the time) to 5 (you typically remember very well), and then obtain an average for each category (total up the ratings in that category and divide by the number in that category).

My Overall Memory_______
My Memory for Everyday People, Places, and Things (average of my scores for the categories below)
People’s names
People’s faces
Where I put things (e.g., keys, eyeglasses)
Performing household chores
Directions to places
Personal dates (i.e., birthdays, anniversaries)
My Memory for Numbers
(average of my scores for the categories below)
Phone numbers I have just looked up
Phone numbers I use frequently
Bank account numbers
Computer passwords
Combinations for locks and safes
My Memory for Information
(average of my scores for the categories below)
Words
What someone has told me in a conversation
What I have learned in a classroom lecture
Reading a novel
Reading a nonfiction book
Reading an article
Reading the newspaper
My Memory for Activities
(average of my scores for the categories below)
Appointments
Performing household chores
Shopping for items at a store
Speaking in public
A meeting at work
My Memory for Events
(average of my scores for the categories below)
Earlier today
Yesterday
Last week
Last month
6 months to a year ago
1–5 years ago
6–10 years ago
When I was a child

After you finish rating each particular item, find the average for remembering that type of information. Then, look at your ratings to assess how well you are doing in different areas. Commonly, you will find you remember best those things that are most important to you, since you naturally pay more attention in those areas.
Where are you especially weak? Those are areas ripe for improvement. Use this test as a guide to help you determine where you especially want to increase your memory. Later, after you have worked on developing your memory over the next month (or however long you take to do this), retest yourself without looking at how you rated yourself before. Afterwards, compare your before-and-after ratings.
Generally, you will find you improve, though your subjective ratings can be affected by other factors, such as how you are feeling when you take the test. In any case, your second set of scores can help you decide what you want to work on next if you want to continue to improve your memory. In fact, if you are into charts and graphs, you can plot your ratings every month to chart your continued progress.

Thursday, 1 August 2013

Stress Management - How to Reduce, Prevent, and Cope with Stress 2 (The A`s)

Stress management strategy #1: Avoid unnecessary stress
Not all stress can be avoided, and it’s not healthy to avoid a situation that needs to be addressed. You may be surprised, however, by the number of stressors in your life that you can eliminate.
Learn how to say “no” – Know your limits and stick to them. Whether in your personal or professional life, refuse to accept added responsibilities when you’re close to reaching them. Taking on more than you can handle is a sure-fire recipe for stress.
Avoid people who stress you out – If someone consistently causes stress in your life and you can’t turn the relationship around, limit the amount of time you spend with that person or end the relationship entirely.
Take control of your environment – If the evening news makes you anxious, turn the TV off. If traffic’s got you tense, take a longer but less-travelled route. If going to the market is an unpleasant chore, do your grocery shopping online.
Avoid hot-button topics – If you get upset over religion or politics, cross them off your conversation list. If you repeatedly argue about the same subject with the same people, stop bringing it up or excuse yourself when it’s the topic of discussion.
Pare down your to-do list – Analyse your schedule, responsibilities, and daily tasks. If you have got too much on your plate, distinguish between the “shoulds” and the “musts.” Drop tasks that aren’t truly necessary to the bottom of the list or eliminate them entirely.
Stress management strategy #2: Alter the situation
If you cannot avoid a stressful situation, try to alter it. Figure out what you can do to change things so the problem does not present itself in the future. Often, this involves changing the way you communicate and operate in your daily life.
Express your feelings instead of bottling them up. If something or someone is bothering you, communicate your concerns in an open and respectful way. If you do not voice your feelings, resentment will build and the situation will likely remain the same.
Be willing to compromise. When you ask someone to change their behaviour, be willing to do the same. If you both are willing to bend at least a little, you will have a good chance of finding a happy middle ground.
Be more assertive. Do not take a back-seat in your own life. Deal with problems head on, doing your best to anticipate and prevent them.
Manage your time better. Poor time management can cause a lot of stress. When you are stretched too thin and running behind, it is hard to stay calm and focused. However, if you plan and make sure you do not overextend yourself, you can alter the amount of stress you are under.
Stress management strategy #3: Adapt to the stressor
If you cannot change the stressor, change yourself. You can adapt to stressful situations and regain your sense of control by changing your expectations and attitude.
Reframe problems. Try to view stressful situations from a more positive perspective. Rather than fuming about a traffic jam, look at it as an opportunity to pause and regroup, listen to your favorite radio station, or enjoy some alone time.
Look at the big picture. Take perspective of the stressful situation. Ask yourself how important it will be in the long run. Will it matter in a month? A year? Is it really worth getting upset over? If the answer is no, focus your time and energy elsewhere.
Adjust your standards. Perfectionism is a major source of avoidable stress. Stop setting yourself up for failure by demanding perfection. Set reasonable standards for yourself and others, and learn to be okay with “good enough.”
Focus on the positive. When stress is getting you down, take a moment to reflect on all the things you appreciate in your life, including your own positive qualities and gifts. This simple strategy can help you keep things in perspective.
Adjusting Your Attitude
How you think can have a profound effect on your emotional and physical well-being. Each time you think a negative thought about yourself, your body reacts as if it were in the throes of a tension-filled situation. If you see good things about yourself, you are more likely to feel good; the reverse is also true. Eliminate words such as "always," "never," "should," and "must." These are tell-tale marks of self-defeating thoughts.
Stress management strategy #4: Accept the things you can’t change
Some sources of stress are unavoidable. You cannot prevent or change stressors such as the death of a loved one, a serious illness, or a national recession. In such cases, the best way to cope with stress is to accept things as they are. Acceptance may be difficult, but in the long run, it’s easier than railing against a situation you can’t change.
Do not try to control the uncontrollable. Many things in life are beyond our control— particularly the behaviour of other people. Rather than stressing out over them, focus on the things you can control such as the way you choose to react to problems.
Look for the upside. As the saying goes, “What doesn't kill us makes us stronger.” When facing major challenges, try to look at them as opportunities for personal growth. If your own poor choices contributed to a stressful situation, reflect on them and learn from your mistakes.
Share your feelings. Talk to a trusted friend or make an appointment with a therapist. Expressing what you’re going through can be very cathartic, even if there’s nothing you can do to alter the stressful situation.
Learn to forgive. Accept the fact that we live in an imperfect world and that people make mistakes. Let go of anger and resentments. Free yourself from negative energy by forgiving and moving on.
Stress management strategy #5: Make time for fun and relaxation
Beyond a take-charge approach and a positive attitude, you can reduce stress in your life by nurturing yourself. If you regularly make time for fun and relaxation, you will be in a better place to handle life’s stressors when they inevitably come.
Go for a walk.
Spend time in nature.
Call a good friend.
Sweat out tension with a good workout.
Write in your journal.
Take a long bath.
Light scented candles.
Savour a warm cup of coffee or tea.
Play with a pet.
Work in your garden.
Get a massage.
Curl up with a good book.
Listen to music.
Watch a comedy.
Do not get so caught up in the hustle and bustle of life that you forget to take care of your own needs. Nurturing yourself is a necessity, not a luxury.
Set aside relaxation time. Include rest and relaxation in your daily schedule. Do not allow other obligations to encroach. This is your time to take a break from all responsibilities and recharge your batteries.
Connect with others. Spend time with positive people who enhance your life. A strong support system will buffer you from the negative effects of stress.
Do something you enjoy every day. Make time for leisure activities that bring you joy, whether it be stargazing, playing the piano, or working on your bike.
Keep your sense of humour. This includes the ability to laugh at yourself. The act of laughing helps your body fight stress in a number of ways.
Stress management strategy #6: Adopt a healthy lifestyle
You can increase your resistance to stress by strengthening your physical health.
Exercise regularly. Physical activity plays a key role in reducing and preventing the effects of stress. Make time for at least 30 minutes of exercise, three times per week. Nothing beats aerobic exercise for releasing pent-up stress and tension.
Eat a healthy diet. Well-nourished bodies are better prepared to cope with stress, so be mindful of what you eat. Start your day right with breakfast, and keep your energy up and your mind clear with balanced, nutritious meals throughout the day.
Reduce caffeine and sugar. The temporary "highs" caffeine and sugar provide often end in with a crash in mood and energy. By reducing the amount of coffee, soft drinks, chocolate, and sugar snacks in your diet, you will feel more relaxed and you will sleep better.
Avoid alcohol, cigarettes, and drugs. Self-medicating with alcohol or drugs may provide an easy escape from stress, but the relief is only temporary. Do not avoid or mask the issue at hand; deal with problems head on and with a clear mind.

Get enough sleep. Adequate sleep fuels your mind, as well as your body. Feeling tired will increase your stress because it may cause you to think irrationally.

Monday, 29 July 2013

Stress Management - How to Reduce, Prevent, and Cope with Stress


Stress produces numerous symptoms, which vary according to persons, situations, and severity. These can include physical health decline as well as depression. The process of stress management is known as one of the keys to a happy and successful life in modern society. Although life provides numerous demands that can prove difficult to handle, stress management provides a number of ways to manage anxiety and maintain overall well-being.

Stress Management
It may seem that there is nothing you can do about stress. The bills won’t stop coming, there will never be more hours in the day, and your career and family responsibilities will always be demanding. But you have more control than you might think. In fact, the simple realization that you are in control of your life is the foundation of stress management. Managing stress is all about taking charge: of your thoughts, emotions, schedule, and the way you deal with problems
  • Identify sources of stress
  • Look at how you cope with stress
  • Avoid unnecessary stress
  • Alter the situation
  • Adapt to the stressor
  • Accept the things you can’t change
  • Make time for fun and relaxation
  • Adopt a healthy lifestyle
  • Identify the sources of stress in your life
  • Learn about hidden sources of stress
Stress management starts with identifying the sources of stress in your life. This is not as easy as it sounds. Your true sources of stress are not always obvious, and it is all too easy to overlook your own stress-inducing thoughts, feelings, and behaviours. Sure, you may know that you are constantly worried about work deadlines.

Start a Stress Journal
A stress journal can help you identify the regular stressors in your life and the way you deal with them. Each time you feel stressed; keep track of it in your journal. As you keep a daily log, you will begin to see patterns and common themes. Write down:
  • What caused your stress (make a guess if you’re unsure)
  • How you felt, both physically and emotionally
  • How you acted in response
  • What you did to make yourself feel better
  • Look at how you currently cope with stress
Think about the ways you currently manage and cope with stress in your life. Your stress journal can help you identify them. Are your coping strategies healthy or unhealthy, helpful or unproductive? Unfortunately, many people cope with stress in ways that compound the problem.

Unhealthy ways of coping with stress
These coping strategies may temporarily reduce stress, but they cause more damage in the long run:
  1. Smoking
  2. Substance or Alcohol Dependency
  3. Overeating or under eating (Binge eating)
  4. Zoning out for hours in front of the TV or computer
  5. Withdrawing from friends, family, and activities
  6. Using pills or drugs to relax
  7. Sleeping too much
  8. Procrastinating
  9. Filling up every minute of the day to avoid facing problems
  10. Taking out your stress on others (lashing out, angry outbursts, physical violence)
Learning healthier ways to manage stress
If your methods of coping with stress are not contributing to your greater emotional and physical health, it’s time to find healthier ones. There are many healthy ways to manage and cope with stress, but they all require change. You can either change the situation or change your reaction. When deciding which option to choose, it is helpful to think of the four As: avoid, alter, adapt, or accept.
Since everyone has a unique response to stress, there is no “one size fits all” solution to managing it. No single method works for everyone or in every situation, so experiment with different techniques and strategies. Focus on what makes you feel calm and in control.

Dealing with Stressful Situations: The Four A’s
Change the situation:
  • Avoid the stressor
  • Alter the stressor
Change your reaction:
  • Adapt to the stressor
  • Accept the stressor

More on each A`s coming up in next installment. 

Saturday, 20 July 2013

Teaching the importance of Clear and Concise Communication


Knowing how to communicate well with others is an essential skill. Effective communication should generate the desired effect and maintain the effect, with the potential to increase the effect of the message. Therefore, effective communication serves the purpose for which it was planned or designed. Possible purposes might be to elicit change, generate action, create understanding, inform or communicate a certain idea or point of view.
Blindfolded Object Recognition
For this exercise, you need two sets of objects:
Use some of the objects in the classroom that kids are already familiar, Examples are:
Marker pen
Paper basket
Stapler
Computer mouse
Folder
Water bottle
Glove
Book
Watch
Glasses
Glasses container
Use some objects, which are not in schools, like:
A battery
A doll
A toy car
Kitchen sponge
Pegs
Coins
Lego pieces
Salt-shaker
Toothpaste
Toothbrush
Old mobile phone
Hair clips
Socks
Newspaper
Put both sets in a box and make sure no one can see them.
Now ask a child to come forward for this fun exercise. Blindfold the child. Pick one object from the box and give it to him/ her. Other kids should not say anything at this point. The child should feel the object and guess what it is.
If the child cannot guess the object, ask other kids to help him/ her by describing the features of the object but not stating the name of it. Whoever states the name cannot be a volunteer in the next rounds and gets out of the game.

You can then repeat the exercise with other kids one by one so they can all have a go at it. Each time they should pick a new object from the box.

Tuesday, 4 June 2013

Communication: Body Language

Body language is a form of mental and physical ability of human non-verbal communication, consisting of body posture, gestures, facial expressions, and eye movements. Humans send and interpret such signals almost entirely subconsciously. (Body language in this sense should be distinguished from sign language.)
James Borg states that human communication consists of 93 percent body language and paralinguistic cues, while only 7% of communication consists of words themselves.

Body language may provide clues as to the attitude or state of mind of a person. For example, it may indicate aggression, attentiveness, boredom, relaxed state, pleasure, amusement, and intoxication.
Body language is significant to communication and relationships. It is relevant to management and leadership in business and in places where many people can observe it. It can also be relevant to some outside of the workplace. It is commonly helpful in dating, mating, in family settings, and parenting. Although body language is non-verbal or non-spoken, it can reveal a lot about your feelings and meaning to others. How others reveal their feelings towards you. Body language signals happen on a conscious and unconscious level.

Purpose of activity:
To understand how we send messages using our body and without using words.
Skills: communication, self-awareness, critical thinking

Materials: Pieces of paper/card

Steps:
Divide participants into pairs.
Each pair should think of a discussion that one of them has had with someone else, which became an argument or a conflict.
The participants then act out the argument using their bodies and faces only. They must not speak and should only mime.  After a few minutes of practising the mime, choose two pairs whose scenes look the clearest. Ask the first pair to act their scene.  Ask the group what they think is happening. Point out that it is often easy to know more or less what is going on from our body movement and facial expressions.

Repeat the exercise with the second pair.

Brainstorm the different parts of the body we can use to communicate with (eyes, arms, mouth, whole body, fingers, legs, shoulders, etc.) and the emotions we can communicate though our bodies (pleasure, anger, weakness, disappointment, etc.).  Write or draw symbols for emotions on paper/card.
Give each participant a paper showing one of the emotions (you can also do this in pairs). Ask them to model the emotion with their body. Go through the group guessing what the emotion each participant or pair is modelling.

Final discussion:
Which is more effective in sending a message, body language or words?  Why?

What are some of the body language messages that are particularly positive or Negative?

Wednesday, 15 May 2013

Influences: Adverts and Media


Purpose of activity: To understand how adverts affect us. Advertisements are part of the environment and they can reflect the values of our society and create peer pressure.
Life skills: Critical thinking, creative thinking 
Important points: People who smoke cigarettes put their own and others health at risk. Advertisements for cigarettes try to influence people to start smoking and to buy cigarettes.
Materials: Three adverts for smoking (and/or other adverts in the environment which the children may see often). You can use the illustrations below but it is better to cut out local ones from magazines or newspapers or go on the streets to look at billboards, where appropriate.  
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Steps
  1. Ask the group what messages are being given by each advertisement. How does the advertisement try to affect us? For example: By being colourful and eye catching; by linking a good life with the product; by using sexy image; or by using words that make us laugh or catch us by surprise
  2. Discuss whether these advertisements tell the truth.
  3. Ask the children to describe or show a poster advert s/he likes very much and say why.
  4. Ask children what other kinds of adverts they hear or see (radio, TV, magazines).
  5. Discuss why we like or dislike advertisements and how they affect the way people think.
  6. In pairs or groups, ask children to act out a role-play in which one child has seen an advertisement for something that s/he wants to have or to do. S/he has to try to convince the group and the others in the group have to change his or her mind. Allow 10 minutes and then the pair or group have to declare the outcome. 
Final discussion:
Ask the group to remember how the discussion developed. Ask the children if they have been affected by an advertisement. Which advert? Should we be careful of adverts? (Think about how we gain or lose from having or doing what is advertised.)

Thursday, 2 May 2013

Rights and Responsibilities

Purpose of activity:
To share ideas about children's rights and responsibilities
To discuss how to ask closer to achieving their rights
Life skills: Critical thinking, creative thinking

Important points: Before the session, find out about the United Nations Convention on the Rights of the Child and the laws on children's rights in the country. 

Materials

Pieces of paper large enough to make a life-size drawing of a child
Marker pens or crayons
Stickers (optional)
Steps:

Explain that this activity explores children's rights and responsibilities.
Rights: what children should have (food, shelter, safe water, health care play etc.) and Responsibilities: what children should do (respect others' rights, help one another etc.)
Ask a volunteer to lie down on the large piece of paper on the floor and draw the outline of their body shape.
Ask all the children to sit around the body drawing. Explain that the body drawing will become a child's rights and responsibilities.
Children brainstorm all the rights they think children should have. The educator writes all these suggestions inside the ‘body’ using a pen in one colour.
Children are then asked to list the responsibilities they have. To help them, show them that many rights have a corresponding responsibility, for example: A right to speak and a responsibility to listen.
Tell the children about the United Nations Convention on the Rights of the Child and your country's laws.
You can have a break here
Read through all the rights that the children listed inside the body.
Ask each child to vote for the three rights that are most important to them. Children can make three dots beside three different rights using a pen in a different colour, or if possible, give each child three stickers. If the children are not literate you can create symbols for different rights. Make sure the children can easily identify what the symbols represent. Then children tell the educator which rights they want to vote for and the educator shows them where to put their mark or sticker.
Select the three rights with the most votes and discuss how this right can be realised, for example: What needs to happen for children to ask the right to protection from violence?
Draw a thin line from each of these three rights. On a card outside the body, write children’s ideas about how to achieve this right.

Follow up: Encourage the children to work together to develop and implement an action plan to improve their rights

Case study

In India, children in a project formed a Child Rights Club. The children were interviewed by the media about their rights at the launch of the club. Here are some of the replies…
I was not allowed to play because I am a girl.
My mother does not send my sister to school, but she sends me. [ a boy]
A right to live a proper life is important because it is only after having this right that we can ask for the other rights. For example, if a girl does not even have the right to live, then what will she do with the other rights?
Because I was not educated, a vegetable seller cheated me.
The police beat me up and put me in an observation home. I wish I could live freely and safely. I hope the police will not beat me in future.